The Huberman Lab Podcast discusses neuroscience: how our brain and its connections with the organs of our body control our perceptions, our behaviors, and our health. We also discuss existing and emerging tools for measuring and changing how our nervous system works. Dr. Andrew Huberman is a tenured Professor of Neurobiology and Ophthalmology at Stanford School of Medicine. His laboratory studies neural regeneration, neuroplasticity, and brain states such as stress, focus, fear, and optimal performance. For more than 20 years, Dr. Huberman has consistently published original research findings and review articles in top-level peer-reviewed journals, including Nature, Science, Cell, Neuron, and Current Biology. He is a regular member of several National Institutes of Health review panels and a Fellow of the McKnight Foundation and the Pew Charitable Trusts. Dr. Huberman regularly consults for technology development companies, professional athletic organizations, and various units of U.S. and Canadian Special Operations.
Defining Healthy Masculinity & How to Build It | Terry Real
Terry Real is a therapist and best-selling author expert on male emotional health and how men can build the skills for healthy relating to others: in relationships, work, friendships and to themselves. We discuss how mixed and ever-changing messages about what masculinity is are impacting the mental and physical health of men and boys. Terry explains how learning the skill of "relationality" leads to improvements in all aspects of boys' and men's lives and shares practical tools for how to do that. We also discuss the essential role of having a close male community to build confidence and self-esteem. This conversation offers actionable guidance for boys, men and women seeking to build healthier relationships with themselves and others.
Read the episode show notes at hubermanlab.com.
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Timestamps
(00:00:00) Terry Real
(00:02:53) Men & Masculinity, Political vs Psychological Patriarchy, Feminism
(00:07:39) Stoicism, Vulnerability, Traditional Masculinity, Emotions
(00:10:50) Sponsors: BetterHelp & David
(00:13:14) Masculinity Across Decades, Giving; Gratification vs Relational Joy
(00:21:54) Healthy Emotional Expression, Connection & Vulnerability; Self-Esteem
(00:31:17) Feeling Emotions, Tools: Asking For Help; Fights & "What Do You Need?"
(00:35:10) Self-Esteem & Relationship Accountability; Criticism, Redefining Strength
(00:40:47) Sponsor: AG1
(00:42:32) Healthy Criticism, Tool: Women & Articulating Needs
(00:50:21) Childlike Behavior, Wise Adult & Trauma, Tool: Relational Mindfulness
(00:58:11) Tool: Responsible Distance Taking; Self-Interest; Relationship "Biosphere"
(01:08:14) Alcohol, Men & Friends, Loneliness, Men's Retreat
(01:17:51) Fraternities, Men's Groups, Tool: Relationship vs Individual Support
(01:25:39) Sponsor: Function
(01:27:27) Lack of Male Friends, Hiking, Community, Teaching Young Men
(01:36:11) Cannabis, Alcohol, Young Men & Purpose, Flexibility & Manliness
(01:40:40) Work, Life Purpose & Men; Skillful Warriors
(01:45:01) Absent Fathers; Early Childhood & Proper Nurturing; Caretaking
(01:53:24) Sponsor: Waking Up
(01:54:47) Women & Speaking Relationally, Objectivity Battle
(01:59:02) Addiction & Disconnection, 12-Step Meetings & Fellowship
(02:08:04) Pornography, Internet, Intensity vs Intimacy; Optimization
(02:11:57) Tool: Families & Hanging Out; Relational Joy; Relational Recovery
(02:22:29) Giving Criticism, Tools: Make Requests; Feedback Wheel
(02:28:21) Gratitude, Aging; Skillful Fighting in Relationship & Repair
(02:34:17) Men & Self-Esteem, Mentors, Tool: Inner Dialogue without Harshness
(02:44:00) Y Chromosome, Wholeness
(02:48:00) Zero-Cost Support, YouTube, Spotify & Apple Follow, Reviews & Feedback, Sponsors, Protocols Book, Social Media, Neural Network Newsletter
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