The Huberman Lab Podcast discusses neuroscience: how our brain and its connections with the organs of our body control our perceptions, our behaviors, and our health. We also discuss existing and emerging tools for measuring and changing how our nervous system works. Dr. Andrew Huberman is a tenured Professor of Neurobiology and Ophthalmology at Stanford School of Medicine. His laboratory studies neural regeneration, neuroplasticity, and brain states such as stress, focus, fear, and optimal performance. For more than 20 years, Dr. Huberman has consistently published original research findings and review articles in top-level peer-reviewed journals, including Nature, Science, Cell, Neuron, and Current Biology. He is a regular member of several National Institutes of Health review panels and a Fellow of the McKnight Foundation and the Pew Charitable Trusts. Dr. Huberman regularly consults for technology development companies, professional athletic organizations, and various units of U.S. and Canadian Special Operations.
Science of Social Bonding in Family, Friendship & Romantic Love | Episode 51
This episode I discuss the science of social bonding- the process by which we form attachments. I explain the neural and hormonal basis for "social homeostasis" (our drive for a given amount of socializing) which reveals why we get lonely, why we seek out connection with others and how power dynamics (hierarchies) shape those connections. I also discuss the neurochemical basis of introversion and extroversion, of trust and how shared experiences that promote similar physiological states in two or more individuals, leads to more rapid bonding. I also discuss how food and oxytocin play key roles in social bonding. This episode covers quality peer-reviewed science and practical tools for anyone seeking to find, build or end relationships.
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Timestamps:
- 00:00:00 Social Bonding: Child-Parent, Romantic, Friendship, Breakups
- 00:02:55 ROKA, Athletic Greens, Headspace
- 00:07:08 Social Bonding as a Biological Process
- 00:10:03 Social Isolation
- 00:13:32 Social Homeostasis & Neural Circuits for Social Drive
- 00:18:55 Brain Areas & (Neuro)Chemistry of Social Drive
- 00:22:48 What is Social Homeostasis & Dopamine
- 00:27:00 When We Lack Social Interactions: Short- Versus Long-Term
- 00:28:10 Introverts & Extroverts
- 00:31:00 “Good” Versus “Bad” Social Interactions & Hierarchies
- 00:33:54 Loneliness & Dorsal Raphe Nucleus & Social Hunger
- 00:37:33 Tools
- 00:38:05 Socializing & Food Appetite: Crossover Craving
- 00:42:45 Falling in Love
- 00:45:05 Tools for Social Bonds: Merging Physiologies; Story
- 00:53:54 Childhood Attachment Patterns in Adulthood
- 01:03:45 Attachment Styles: Autonomic Versus Intellectual Attachment
- 01:06:10 Emotional Empathy & Cognitive Empathy, Arguing
- 01:09:45 Allan N. Schore & “Right Brain Psychotherapy”
- 01:10:40 Oxytocin & Trust, In Males Versus Females, Hormonal Glue
- 01:16:10 Repairing Broken Bonds to Self & Others
- 01:18:56 Social (Media) Butterflies: Biological Basis
- 01:24:08 Key Points for Bonding & Understanding Social Bonds
- 01:27:07 Breaking Up
- 01:28:36 Synthesis
- 01:31:17 Zero-Cost Support, Sponsors, Patreon, Thorne, Instagram, Twitter
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