Join Matt Abrahams, a lecturer of Strategic Communication at Stanford Graduate School of Business, as he sits down with experts in the field to discuss real-world challenges. How do I send my message clearly when put on the spot? How do I write emails to get my point across? How can I easily convey complex information? How do I manage my reputation? Whether you’re giving a toast or presenting in a meeting, communication is critical to success in business and in life.Think Fast, Talk Smart provides the tools, techniques, and best practices to help you communicate more effectively.
333. Find the Vibe: Build Stronger Connections Through Communication Part 1
“Be as curious about the other person as you are excited to share about yourself.”
What makes you click with someone? For organizational psychologist and bestselling author Adam Grant, meaningful connection isn't just about chemistry. It's about understanding how we relate to others, showing genuine curiosity, and creating interactions that bring us closer. In part one of this two-part Think Fast, Talk Smart episode, Grant joins Matt Abrahams to discuss the science of connection and share lessons from his new book, Vibe: The Secrets of Strong Connections in a Lonely World. From building confidence through practice and seeking advice instead of feedback to finding common ground and creating more dynamic conversations, Grant shares practical ways to strengthen relationships and make our interactions more meaningful.
Takeaways:
- Strong connections are built with intention. Understanding whether you're seeking shared goals, interests, or values helps you approach relationships more thoughtfully and build stronger connections.
- Better conversations require curiosity and give-and-take. Showing genuine interest, keeping exchanges dynamic, and remembering personal details can turn everyday interactions into more meaningful, lasting relationships.
Activity:
- Make a memory flex. After your next meaningful conversation, note one detail the other person shared. A few days later, follow up with a thoughtful message, recommendation, or question that shows you remembered and helps strengthen the connection.
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- (00:00) - Introduction
- (01:03) - Overcoming Speaking Anxiety
- (04:03) - Building Confidence
- (05:28) - Expanding Your Comfort Zone
- (08:17) - Learning Through Advice
- (13:45) - Balancing Competence and Connection
- (15:21) - The Science of Vibing
- (16:53) - Building Connection Virtually
- (18:52) - Three Types of Connection
- (20:17) - Turn Connection Into Collaboration
- (23:38) - The Final Three Questions
- (30:34) - Conclusion
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